The website told us to be prepared for good days and bad days. What the website didn\u2019t tell us was how aggressively the bad days would eclipse the good. It also failed to mention that the scale we use to gauge \u201cgood\u201d vs. \u201cbad\u201d would evolve over the course of the illness. That we would be more and more generous in describing days as \u201cgood.\u201c Perhaps grading on a curve is required for our sanity.<\/p>\n
The website didn\u2019t prepare us for all the emotions: anger, sadness, and exhaustion.<\/p>\n
When the good days come again for a few hours you forget she\u2019s dying.<\/p>\n
At times the universality of death brings some small comfort. Sometimes it brings nothing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The website told us to be prepared for good days and bad days. What the website didn\u2019t tell us was how aggressively the bad days would eclipse the good. It also failed to mention that the scale we use to gauge \u201cgood\u201d vs. \u201cbad\u201d would evolve over the course of the illness. That we would… <\/p>\n